This fingernail visualisation and imagination exercise has been on my mind for some while now.
So this February I have decided to do it because mentally growing one fingernail bigger than all the rest will clearly demonstrate the power of the mind to change the body.
For next 28 days, I am going to, for 10-20 minutes each day, visualise and imagine in different ways that the ring finger nail on my right hand is growing faster than all the other nails on both hands. On this very page, I will document and log how I am getting on along with the different techniques I am using.
On the first of March, I am hoping that there will be a visible difference in growth on the nail on the right ring finger from all my other nails.
You are more than welcome to join in too and don’t forget to let me know how you are getting on.
This is all you need do:
1. Cut your fingernails on the 1st of February.
2. Pick a fingernail.
3. For 28 days visualise for 10-20mins that nail growing faster than all the rest.
4. Take a photo every day.
5. On the 1st of March share your results to see how your mind can influence your body.
31 January 2018
I decided to do this challenge this morning as I was cutting my nails in the shower. So I will not cut them again tomorrow, but I will measure each nail, as soon as my calipers arrive at some point tomorrow.
So this is what my nails look like now:
Please comment below and keep me up to with how you are getting or what you think about this challenge.
Until tomorrow when I will give you the nail measurements and information about my first visualisation…
1 February 2018
The calipers arrived this evening, I have now measured my fingernails and the details are below:
Left Thumb = 11.5mm Right Thumb = 11.8mm
Left Pointing Finger = 9.5mm Right Pointing Finger = 10.7mm
Left Middle Finger = 10.8mm Right Middle Finger = 10.6mm
Left Ring Finger = 10mm Right Ring Finger = 10.8mm
Left Little Finger = 6.7mm Right Little Finger = 6mm
Now the visualisation begins to see if the I can make the Right Ring Fingernail grow faster than all the other nails.
2 February 2018
With the alarm set on my phone to remind me of my two 10 minute session for visualisation each day I am ready to go.
I am going to start by imagining that I have shrunk down to the base of the nail on the right ring finger and am building new nail brick by brick after completing each row I am going to imagine pushing the nail out, causing growth, before building another row and continue doing this mentally for 10 minutes.
Until tomorrow, have a good day.
3 February 2018
Today I have completed two sets of ten minutes imagining building a row of nail and pushing it out from inside my finger so the nail grows that tiny bit. I repeated this process today for a total of twenty minutes.
I even visualised that at one point I had a helper building the extra nail. This has given me an idea of how to speed up the nail growth process…
4 February 2018
Both visualisations today went well and are progressing nicely with the help of the additional nail builders who I imagine being my brother and good friend Ben, who are both professionals in the construction industry and would help me in real life, thus helping the visualisation ‘feel’ more real.
To extend this visualisation further I have also left a construction team building my nail on the right ring finger whilst I am not there. This team is busy working as I type this sentence. Before I start the next visualisation session I will check in with the builders and thank them for their great, tidy and efficient work.
5 February 2018
Upon starting the visualisation this morning the builders had been very productive and the nail had grown a lot and ready to be pushed out.
For the afternoon imagination session, I mixed it up a bit. By using a variation of this technique below but instead of imagining the fingers I pictured the specific nail getting nearer the knee.
6th and 7th February 2018
The last couple of days I have been visualising hard and took it to another level by introducing a couple other techniques.
The first one is that I imagine the part above and below the nail has less friction than all the other nails, enabling it to grow faster.
The second is imagining there is a control room in my head with lots of dials, sliders and switches. I finder the dials for all the fingernails and make sure the growth speed is set to normal. I then focus on the right ring finger nail and spin that dial up to full speed helping the nail grow faster. I have created a similar visualisation for healing which can be purchased from the Natural Healing Resources shop if you want to try it for yourself.
I also ‘feel’ the nail growing faster which is helpful. On top of this, I think I can see a difference in the length of the nail now too.
8th and 9th February 2018
Those little workers are doing a great job, each day I come back to the visualisation they have built a lot of nail ready to be pushed out to grow.
Another imagination I find helpful is picturing the nail growing rapidly towards the sun or moon. I also embrace the ‘feeling’ of the nail being longer than all the rest.
10th and 11th February 2018
Over the last two days, I have added a new feature to the building visualisation. Along with my brother and friend, we build the nail for the length of the finger before all pushing and squashing it up to the based of the nail into a concertina. I then ‘feel’ the nail growing out of my finger as the concertina straightens out. I really can feel the sensation of the nail getting bigger.
12th and 13th February 2018
For last two days, along with visualising, I have adapted an amazing technique created by Doctor Escudero called Noesitherapy. It enables patients to experience no pain, simply by filling the mouth with saliva and stating over and over again that:- “My right hand [or any other part of the body] is completely psychologically anaesthetised” you can see an example of Noesitherapy in the documentary below:
I stated with saliva in my mouth and believe “My nail on the right finger is growing much faster than all the other nails” I do this for the first 5 minutes. I then move on to the control room and nail building visualisations.
14th and 15th February 2018
The visualisation is now building layers upon layers to help the fingernail on the right-hand ring finger grow faster than all the rest.
So, along with all the imagination techniques mentioned above, I have started increasing the confirmation feelings of the visualisations. For example, in the mind control room, I have now found the lever for each individual fingers and when I adjust each lever the corresponding finger moves, for example when I slide the left pointing finger lever this happens:
This helps confirm that the control room is working. Above each finger lever is a dial which sets the speed for each fingernails growth speed. I make sure to set all dials to the slowest growing speed possible, except the one for the nail on the right ring finger which gets set to the fastest possible speed.
Then I imagine all the unneeded nail builders moving from the other fingernails to speed up the building of the nail on the right ring finger.
Well, it’s that time of year when we make that New Year resolution.
And if you are reading this I am pretty confident that losing weight is your goal for this coming year.
And more than likely it was the same year before that too! (Don’t worry we all do it from time to time until we can learn something new.)
So what happened?
We all start with good intentions for a few months or even weeks but then we start to fall back into bad habits.
We then feel angry and frustrated and move onto the next big super fat burning wonder diet, and the cycle continues.
You may have tried, special shakes, fat free foods or even attended weekly weight loss classes.
However, let’s not forget
Eating a consistent healthy balanced diet is one of best things you can do to aid weight loss.
But, do you really know what we should be eating to give you the best possible chance to lose that weight and more importantly, keep it off for the rest of life without any worry or stress.
You are told by the nutrition experts to…
Eat less Gluten
Cut out saturated fats
Add more omega 3 fatty acids
Eats less calories
We all look on the labels and automatically think just because it has hardly any calories. It must be healthy.
And to be honest, most of us have absolutely no idea what a calorie is!
I am sure you will agree it is just too confusing!
Now, that’s exactly what journalist Michael Pollan was going through!
He was so confused and frustrated he set out to find an answer to a simple question.
What should I eat?
And, after trudging through the confusing world of nutritional science.
To his surprise, he found the answer was far simpler than he could ever imagine.
In fact, it could be boiled down to just seven words!
Eat food, Not too much, Mostly plants
Michael also broke down the seven words into simple food rules that anyone can understand and apply to their daily lives!
So, let’s find out how these seven words can help you lose weight the right way!
What you are going to learn today.
The number 1 thing you must do to stop the yoyo dieting cycle for good.
The 3 proven facts that nutritional science does not want you to know about.
What should I eat, Eat food
What kind of food should I eat, Mostly plants
How should I eat, Not too much
The number 1 thing you must do to stop the yo-yo dieting cycle for good!
Ok, before we start lets you and I have a little chat.
Let me ask you this?
Who do think is responsible for you failing to lose weight over and over again.
Or simply put Yo-Yo dieting.
The big food companies?
Your parents for bringing you up on an unhealthy diet of processed food and fizzy drinks?
Blame your partner that he/she is eating unhealthy food in front you when you are trying to lose weight.
NOPE! It’s YOU!
Sorry about that! But you needed to hear it!
The fact is you are the only one that is totally responsible for your life and your health.
Ok, when you were a young child you did not have the choice to be bombarded with negative influences.
However, now you are a grown adult and you can choose to do what you like.
And if we are blaming food companies, parents and partners etc. We choose to give our power to heal away!
And quite frankly that is all it is a choice!
You are in charge of your life, it does not matter how much you try to blame people and circumstances it all comes back to the choices you made.
So you may ask how I can stop all the blaming?
Well, the best place to start is right now in this very moment.
You can choose, at this very moment, that you alone are responsible for you losing weight and never, never, never (yes that’s 3 never’s) ever lose that mindset.
You see, you can only make a choice in this moment, the past is gone and unless you are Marty McFly with a DeLorean parked on the drive outside your house you do not know what’s in the future either.
So all that leaves is this moment!
Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and the way you speak.
You may be on your way home from work you are feeling tired and hungry. You start to think, I can’t be bothered to cook I will get a McDonalds.
Now that very moment is your point of power, you have choice…
Choose to have a McDonalds and most possibly really regret it later.
Choose to drive straight home and cook a quick nutritious meal and be proud of yourself later.
Now ask yourself which is the best choice?
Of course, if want you to lose weight you would choose the latter.
But is it really that simple? Your mind is shouting out just get the flipping burger that’s what we always do!!!
This is the exact the moment to make the right choice! Yes it may be hard at first but the more you make the right choice the easier it will be to break the habits/choices that have been tripping you up in the past.
If you still find it difficult start to think why it’s the best choice to go home and cook.
Convince yourself that McDonald’s is bad idea…something like this…
McDonalds always busy this time of day and then I will get stuck in traffic and will be late home. So I think it would be quicker to go home and cook anyway. It’s the better choice! I know I will regret it later but be proud if I go home an eat healthily.
It then becomes a habit to make the right choice not just to lose weight but in how you live your life.
I would go as far to say, when you really start to take responsibility for your own life you will not only lose weight you will never put the weight back on unless you choose too.
But the big difference now is that you will have to break the habit of making the right choices
Which I think you agree is a good place to be.
Ok Mark, I get that I have to start making the right choice but there is so much information out there on what foods to eat, how I should eat and how much to eat.
I need to know how to eat healthy so I know I am making the right choice.
With that in mind Let’s move on!
The 3 Proven Facts That Nutritional Science Do Not Want you To Know About.
What if I told you that nutritional science only started 200 years?
To put it into comparison, nutritional science is no further ahead than surgery was in the year 1650!
Doesn’t fill you with confidence, does it!
Michael Pollan stated…
I’ve learned volumes about all we don’t know about nutrition, I’ve also learnt a small number of very important things we do not know about food and health.
In fact, there are only 2 important things you need to know about the links between diet and health
2 facts that are not in dispute!
And, even more important, these facts are sound and sturdy enough that we can build a sensible diet upon them.
We are never told about this very simple fact that finally cuts through the confusion and have a simple answer to the question.
What do we really need to eat to stay healthy and to promote natural health?
A population that eats a so-called western diet generally has a diet consisting of….
Added fat and sugar
Lots of refined grains
Basically, pretty much everything except, vegetables, fruits and whole grains!
For whatever reason, this diet has become a massive problem in the western world and has a major part in manifesting and the suffering of western diseases.
Type 2 diabetes
To name but a few
In fact, the four of the top 10 killer diseases in America alone, are linked to poor a diet.
If we live in the west, it’s all around us! Fast food restaurants, hot dogs stands, fizzy/soda drinks and even the media bombarding us with advertising for alcoholic drinks and processed foods.
And to be honest, we never see advertising promoting fruit and vegetables. It may even feel ridiculous to many of us.
Now we know that the western diet is not a good way to go, that’s if you don’t mind manifesting any of the western diseases.
Let us move on to the next….
Populations, who eat a wide range or a traditional diet, mainly don’t suffer from chronic diseases.
Here are a few examples…
Inat in Greenland eat largely seal blubber which is high in fat.
The Massi in Africa have a high protein diet that mainly consists of cattle blood, meat and milk.
Central American Indians eat mostly maize and beans that is high in carbohydrate.
Ok, these are very extreme examples.
But the simple fact is there is no one single diet on earth that suits all our needs, it just does not exist! TWEET THIS!
Now, Michael Pollan states that there is actually a third fact!
People who get off the western diet can see their health and wellbeing dramatically turn around for the best. TWEET THIS!
As mentioned in Michaels book…
A typical American population that made even a small change that leads them towards a more traditional diet, could reduce the….
Chances of getting heart disease by 80%.
Chances of getting type 2 diabetes by 90%
Chances of getting Colon Cancer by 70%
But, surprisingly we’re never told any of these simple facts!
Because the diet and health industry want to create confusion which in turn keeps on making them money!
2 trillion to be exact!
There is always a new wonder diet, a special pill,
Low fat this… reduced calories that!
But the simple fact is, all we need to do is eat real food!
Now, with these 3 facts in mind Michael Pollan set out to make it so easy for his family to eat a healthy diet.
Without trying to figure out if it’s healthy or full processed ingredients.
So then, Michael set out some foods rules that can be narrowed down to just 7 words…
Eat food, Not too much, mostly plants
Below are some of the best examples of 60 of Michael’s rules. You only need nine rules…
3 from eat food.
3 from not too much.
3 from mostly plants.
And you will quickly understand how simple eating can be.
What should I eat?
Eat food that will eventually rot!
Food processing all began to extend the shelf life of food! So! The more the food is processed the longer the shelf life.
Real food is alive and therefore it will eventually die! (Rot)
Natural Grains and nuts
Avoid foods products with the word “light”, “low Fat” or “Non-Fat” in their names!
Just because you remove the name fat, does not mean it is not fattening or healthy. We then think we can eat more just because it says “Low Fat” on the label!
In fact, they are just as unhealthy, as they are full of refined sugars.
Since the low-fat campaigns began in late 1970, Americans actually have been eating 500 more calories per day.
And, most of these calories are in the form or refined sugars!
Don’t eat anything your great-grandmother wouldn’t recognise as food!
Just imagine you great-grandmother walking around your local supermarket.
I am sure you would agree most of the food on the shelf your great-grandmother would have absolutely no idea what most of the foods are.
In her day, what you might think as traditional food, was all that was to offer as food processing was probably not even been invented.
So, your grandmother would buy fresh food and then cook from scratch!
Unlike today, where we can put it in the microwave or even get it delivered to our door.
I am sure you would agree your great-grandmother’s way is so much healthier.
What kind of food should I eat?
Treat meat as a flavouring or a special occasion food!
Ok, it is true that you will be a lot healthier if you are a vegetarian! But this does mean you have to cut out meat altogether.
In fact, people who eat meat only twice a week are just as healthy as a vegetarian!
But, If you really want to eat meat everyday make sure there is simply more vegetables than meat on your plate!
Eat plants, especially leaves!
There are so many studies showing that a diet consisting of vegetables and fruits reduces the risk of all the so-called western diseases.
In fact, the countries that eats more fruit and vegetables a day, the rate of cancer is half of what it is in the United States.
That is huge!
And as an added bonus, they also live longer!
All because they eat more plants!
Eat your colours!
A healthy plate of food generally has bright colours!
Take a look at your fruit bowl; it’s full of reds, yellows, orange and even purples!
Even the salad in your fridge is full of colour.
Each colour has a different health benefit. So try to mix lots of different colours on your plate of food.
And you will not go far wrong!
How should I eat!
Not too much!
Stop eating before you are full!
The Japanese have a saying, “Hara hachi bu” Which means stop eating when you are 80% full
We all do it!
We eat so much we feel bloated or we have always been told by our parents to finish our food!
So, ask yourself?
Not, am I full? But instead is my hunger gone? This makes you think from a different angle!
Eat slowly enough to savour your food.
When you eat slowly,
You will then find that you will need to eat less food to feel satisfied.
Also, put down your knife and fork between each mouth full. I have tried this, and it is surprising how it slows down the way you eat. As an added bonus you enjoy the food more.
Use smaller plates and glasses
It’s simple really, the bigger the plate the more we will eat!
One research found that simply switching from a 12” plate to a 10” plate made us eat 22% less food.
Ok you may have to buy some more plates and glasses.
But hey! It will be worth it!
Ok there it is!
If for some reason the 9 rules I have mentioned just don’t resonate with you, there are another 51 in Michaels book Food Rules.
There is one more rule I would like to share from Michael’s book.
Break the rules once in a while!
We are always worrying about dieting and nutrition and forget to enjoy food and life itself.
So if once in while if you want a high-fat burger, GO FOR IT!
If you are making the right choices 95% of the time, one burger is not going to harm you!
For example, my brother Craig has lost 14lbs in a month.
All Craig did was cut out the processed food and started to eat more fruit, salad, and vegetables. And instead of crisps he started eating natural nuts.
But what he did say to me, I will never forget it! Here is what he said:
Yes I have got into the habit of eating healthy but I will never give up my beer on the weekend and if I want a burger after a night out or have a takeaway, I am going to have it!
Ok, Craig might have lost more weight if he did not have the beer or the burger!
However, because Craig had changed his overall habits around his daily diet he will lose the weight anyway!
Oh Yes! I forgot to mention! Craig never even knew about these rules when he started, he figured it out himself!
So, you only need to pick 1 rule from each section EAT FOOD, MOSTLY PLANTS AND NOT TOO MUCH.
And know that you too can lose weight the right way.
Above all, choose to make a positive change towards a long and healthy life!
Because this is all it is… a choice!
Ok, that’s all for now.
Actually wait, no I think I have time to create a quick video for you which may help too. Here it is:
Ok, that truly is all for now.
As always if you have any questions please let me know in the comments below. I always love to hear from you
Yes! you did hear me right, as a protest to the way the government was treating the Buddhist religion!
Thích Quảng Đức sat down in the middle of the road on a cushion that had been placed on the road by two other Monks.
Then! To everyone’s amazement, the two monks poured petrol over Thích Quảng Đức head and set him alight.
Now if that was you or me or anyone else, we’d rolling around in agony and experiencing pain beyond belief!
But! He never moved a muscle, never uttered a sound, but in contrast to those around him who were sobbing and crying and in total shock!
I can hear you saying, “Mark have you completely gone completely mad” I have only got a bad back!
Now, of course, I do not expect you to go and sit on your driveway or road and set yourself on fire to prove you can block out pain.
But what I would say, there are a many ways you can learn from Thích Quảng Đức control of massive amount of pain and discomfort.
Below are a few of my personal photos of the location and memorial for Thích Quảng Đức.
Thich Quang Duc
Thich Quang Duc
Thich Quang Duc
What you are going to learn from this post
How Thích Quảng Đức managed his discomfort whilst on fire.
Discover how you can control your pain and discomfort like Thích Quảng Đức.
How Thích Quảng Đức managed his discomfort whilst on fire.
The first thing to say here is that a lot of people feel they know how this monk managed the pain.
I will share the pain management techniques they believe Thích Quảng Đức used.
In my opinion, all the techniques are possible but one is much more likely than any of the others because of the sources closeness to Thích Quảng Đức.
The first suggestion is from a question answered on Reddit:
There are schools of meditation that teach that there is a difference between pain and suffering. Pain is what you feel, but suffering is in your reaction to the pain. If instead of having a strong, negative reaction to the pain, you simply accept it, you can experience pain without suffering. “Simply accepting” in general is easier said than done.
Source: Corysama Reddit User
Now… I feel Corysama has some really good points here. Pain and suffering are very different as Haruki Murakami explains in his famous quote “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
This is extended upon by Shinzen Young in his book ‘Break Through Pain’ who shares his philosophy of suffering and pain with an equation.
So… What is The Pain Equation and how can it help with pain?
Simply put it states that suffering is equal to Pain times Resistance ( S=PxR ).
To suffer we need to 2 things; Pain and Resistance.
So let’s say Thích Quảng Đức didn’t resist the pain and just accept the discomfort, meaning the resistance is low or even at zero.
What would his amount of suffering have?
According to The Pain Equation zero as well. Even if his pain was 100 the suffering will be zero, leaving him with just the sensation of discomfort to deal with.
The next answer was from a Quora user
This act is obviously not beyond the range of human endurance as he, a human being, could do it. How was he able to accomplish this feat? Three words: motivation, detachment and dhyana.
Source: Flavio Costa Quora User
So let’s break these three words down further:
Dictionary.com describes Motivation as providing a reason to act in a certain way.
Thích Quảng Đức motivation was religious freedom from persecution and oppression from the Catholic Vietnamese president Diem is clearly documented in a letter he left before this act of self-immolation(killing oneself as a sacrifice):
Before closing my eyes and moving towards the vision of the Buddha, I respectfully plead to President Ngo Dinh Diem to take a mind of compassion towards the people of the nation and implement religious equality to maintain the strength of the homeland eternally. I call the venerables, reverends, members of the sangha and the lay Buddhists to organize in solidarity to make sacrifices to protect Buddhism.
A little like the non-resistance we discussed earlier, detachment required Thích Quảng Đức to observe and let any feelings and sensations fulfil their purpose of being felt.
The Monk, I expect, did this by having a deep understanding of impermanence(nothing lasts), much like the saying ‘this too shall pass’ that states everything will end so there is no need to be attached.
Thích Quảng Đức, unlike the people watching, had overcome The six root unwholesome factors (mūlakleśa) of:
Raga – attachment
Pratigha – anger
Avidya – ignorance
Māna – pride, conceit
Vicikitsa – doubt
Dṛiṣṭi – wrong view
Dhyana is a deep understanding and practise of meditation where the practitioner attains, when at a high level, a perfect equanimity(calmness and composure, especially in a difficult situation) and awareness, presumably like Thích Quảng Đức.
Originally the practice of dhyana itself may have constituted the core liberating practice of early Buddhism, since in this state all “pleasure and pain” had waned.
The Fourth Jhāna (Dhyana) states — “The other half of bliss (happiness) disappears, leading to a state with neither pleasure nor pain, which the Buddha said is actually a subtle form of happiness (more sublime than pīti and sukha). The breath is said to cease temporarily in this state. The remaining qualities are: “a feeling of equanimity, neither pleasure nor pain; an unconcern due to serenity of awareness; unification of mind, contact, feeling, perception, intention, consciousness, desire, decision, persistence, mindfulness, equanimity & attention”
The Final View come from one of Thích Quảng Đức’s friends
Thich Nhat Hanh is now one of the world’s most well-known Zen Buddhists and interestingly, lived with Thích Quảng Đức at Long-Vinh Pagoda for around 12 months.
Hanh described Đức to be ‘A very kind and lucid person, and that he was calm and in full possession of his mental faculties when he burned himself.’
In a very interesting letter to Matin Luther King, Thich Nhat Hanh helps us understand how Thích Quảng Đức managed the discomfort of burning alive.
Here is the letter for you to read, it is very moving to me and help me understand the mental and mind required to withstand so much pain.
The self-burning of Vietnamese Buddhist monks in 1963 is somehow difficult for the Western Christian conscience to understand. The Press spoke then of suicide, but in the essence, it is not. It is not even a protest. What the monks said in the letters they left before burning themselves aimed only at alarming, at moving the hearts of the oppressors and at calling the attention of the world to the suffering endured then by the Vietnamese. To burn oneself by fire is to prove that what one is saying is of the utmost importance. There is nothing more painful than burning oneself. To say something while experiencing this kind of pain is to say it with the utmost of courage, frankness, determination and sincerity. During the ceremony of ordination, as practiced in the Mahayana tradition, the monk-candidate is required to burn one, or more, small spots on his body in taking the vow to observe the 250 rules of a bhikshu, to live the life of a monk, to attain enlightenment and to devote his life to the salvation of all beings. One can, of course, say these things while sitting in a comfortable armchair; but when the words are uttered while kneeling before the community of sangha and experiencing this kind of pain, they will express all the seriousness of one’s heart and mind, and carry much greater weight.
The Vietnamese monk, by burning himself, say with all his strength and determination that he can endure the greatest of sufferings to protect his people. But why does he have to burn himself to death? The difference between burning oneself and burning oneself to death is only a difference in degree, not in nature. A man who burns himself too much must die. The importance is not to take one’s life, but to burn. What he really aims at is the expression of his will and determination, not death. In the Buddhist belief, life is not confined to a period of 60 or 80 or 100 years: life is eternal. Life is not confined to this body: life is universal. To express will by burning oneself, therefore, is not to commit an act of destruction but to perform an act of construction, i.e., to suffer and to die for the sake of one’s people.
Source: Sid Kemp – Quora User
Thích Quảng Đức saw the situation in a different perspective, not as suicide but as way to reduce suffering for others.
He had not only practiced with the mind he had also prepared with the burning and discomfort
Determination and will were key to managing the pain.
Acceptance and being in the moment was very important. The purpose was to burn, not die.
Discover how you can control your pain and discomfort like Thích Quảng Đức.
For me the 5 key messages to take are:
Accepting the discomfort
Be in the moment with no expectations
Feel the discomfort and pain
Determination to become more comfortable
By accepting and not resisting, just like the monk, we can let the feelings and sensations of discomfort flow.
With acceptance, we will not attempt to change how the moment is causing stress and tension stopping the feeling and sensation moving through us.
Be in the moment with complete acceptance and non-resistance as you truly are.
But Mark, you may say, I don’t know who I truly am yet.
Let me share a meditation and visualisation I discovered which have helped me understand a little bit more about how Thích Quảng Đức may have managed his discomfort and most importantly a technique you can use to help you manage your pain too.
It starts with developing and finding our observer to become aware. This first part of this Psychosynthesis Exercise will help us discover our awareness.
So here goes:
Sit quietly and comfortably. Look around you and become aware of all that you see.
See it in all its detail, as clearly and as vividly as possible. Take a few moments to do
this…. Now close your eyes, and breathe in slowly. As you inhale, take in this vivid,
visual awareness. Then exhale and, as you do so, ask yourself “WHO IS
With your eyes closed, imagine that you are drawing a white circle with chalk on a
blackboard. Look at the circle…be aware of it…(pause)…Then take a deep breath,
and as you exhale, ask yourself “WHO IS AWARE?”
Still with your eyes closed, imagine that you are drawing a white circle with chalk on
A blackboard. Look at the circle…be aware of it…(pause)…Then take a deep breath,
and as you exhale, ask yourself “WHO IS AWARE?”
Now let the circle fade away and, breathing rhythmically in and out as you have been doing, stay with the awareness of yourself as the one who is aware…. (pause)…
Really experience being yourself…Try to get as clear a sense as possible of this
Experience. Take all the time you need to do this.
So we now know how to find our awareness and observe the next stage and part will help discover who we truly are:
Again sit quietly and comfortably. Look around you and become aware of what
you see in all its detail, as clearly and as vividly as possible. Now close your
eyes, and breathe in slowly. As you inhale, take in the awareness. Then exhale
and, as you do so, ask yourself “WHO IS AWARE?”
With your eyes closed, become aware of what you hear. Listen to the sounds, or
to the silence around you…(pause)… Now, take a deep breath, and as you exhale
slowly, ask yourself “WHO IS AWARE?”
Still with your eyes closed, imagine that once again you are drawing a white
circle with chalk on a blackboard. Look at the circle…be aware of it…(pause)…
Then take a deep breath, and as you exhale, ask yourself “WHO IS AWARE?”
Let the circle fade away and, breathing rhythmically in and out, stay with the
awareness of yourself as the one who is aware. Really experience being yourself. Take some time to do this.
Now try to get as clear a sense as possible for what it is like to be yourself…Try
To become aware of the stability of the self, its permanency. Try to experience it
as the stable state of consciousness that is always reliably there. You will find
that while all else changes, it remains. It is available always, as a source of
stability and of clear perception in the midst of change.
With the awareness of being your unchanging self, turn your attention to your
body…(pause)… Your body changes. The sensations of your body are different
now than they were a few moments ago…and they will be different again a few
moments from now. Your body itself is different now than it was when you were
a child, and it keeps changing as you grow older. But yourself does not change.
Now, focus once again on the awareness of being yourself, the one who is aware.
And as that unchanging self, become aware of your feelings…(pause)… Your
feelings also are changing all the time…even the depth with which you feel
changes. But yourself does not change.
Focus once again on being yourself, the one who is aware. And as that
unchanging self, become aware of your mind…Your thoughts change with great
rapidity. They jump from one idea to another…and, as you grow, you use
different ways of thinking. But yourself, your true nature, does not change.
Focus once again on being yourself. Then become aware of your body, your
feelings, and your mind. Be aware that you have these three aspects…they are
yours…they are your valuable means of expression in the world, and you have the
capacity to direct and regulate them at will. But they are not you. You are yourself, the one who is aware…
Yes that’s right! Morris Goodman walked unaided, straight out the main entrance of the hospital.
Even though Morris was completely paralysed and his 1st and 2nd vertebrae were broken, he had no doubt about his recovery even when Doctors told him that he would not breath on his own, speak or walk again.
He states that it does not matter what they thought of me, the only thing that mattered is what I thought.
Morris realised that he controlled his destiny and would live with the consequences of the choices he made, and not the doctors, so he chose the most positive behaviour to aid his recovery.
He set his own goals and knew each individual targeted goal he would require to achieve his ultimate aim of walking out of the hospital by Christmas.
What are Your Goals?
How do you want to live Your Life?
“If you don’t have a dream or a goal how is it supposed to come true?” Morris Goodman Click to Tweet
I would argue that Morris naturally had the correct mindset to recover but that does not mean YOU cannot learn and develop a similar mindset to aid your own recovery.
This remarkable video demonstrates the tremendous mindset of The Miracle Man – Morris Goodman.
Here is what you are going learn from the miracle man…
Find out why acceptance is the key to your own Recovery…
Why you need to take total responsibility for your own recovery
How to set your own goals that speed up recovery…
How to use the astonishing Healing power of your own mind…
Why acceptance is the key to your own Recovery…
Ok, let me ask you this, and really be completely honest with yourself! How are you feeling Right Now in this very moment?
How are you resisting?
Are You Feeling angry?
Frustrated or are you tense?
What is your body telling you?
Are you tense in the shoulders?…neck or stomach…are you clenching your fists?…Is you breathing shallow? Or maybe you have a headache!
What are you thinking right Now?
“I wish it would just go way!”
“This is not how life should be”
Or just simply “ I am pissed off with it all”
Now you have a choice….You can accept it or resist it?
The aim with the feeling of pain or discomfort is to observe it and not resist it.
Read that last sentence again. I know it sounds counter-intuitive but it is so important you understand and really take it in!
So what does that mean?
To put it simply, you just need to take a step back and take a real good look at your life.
Remember the pain and discomfort is only a part of your life. It may be a big part, but it’s only a part!
Now, take a deep breath and calmly say to yourself “I choose to accept whatever is happening to me right now”
Now ask yourself… “What is a better choice for me right now?”
Examples of better choices and resistance coping skills…
Laugh as much as you can, Ok you are not feeling your best but that doesn’t mean you cannot laugh. Watch a funny film, a comedian you know is funny or look up some funny Youtube videos.
The animal and children videos are my favourites; I can’t stop laughing at some of them, you know what I mean, that gut wrenching laughter where you just can’t stop.
Family and Friends…
Spend time with loved ones and friends that understand and support you on your path. Just being around the people you love is amazing, especially children, they make you laugh and are always doing something to keep your attention.
Acts of kindness…
At least once a day do an act of kindness to either someone you know or a complete stranger. It may just be a simple comment about someone’s appearance. Just do was feels right for you.
Each day write down a list of things you are most grateful in your life. You could start with being grateful for your family and friends, a roof over your head or your pet that gives you so much pleasure. Once you start you will find it hard to stop.
Just think of the examples above as choices, nothing more nothing less. You do have choice!
Choose to resist it and focus on the pain with all the negative thoughts.
Choose to accept the pain and move on to more positive thoughts.
Ok, let’s move on.
Taking total responsibility for your own recovery…
Firstly, let’s take a look at Morris Goodman, he realised that he controlled his destiny and would live with the consequences of the choices he made
He took total responsibility; He did not let anyone stand in his way, not even the doctors.
The only person that can take responsibility for your recovery and your own life is YOU!
Take these examples…
In the west we would go to our doctor and ask how can YOU help me with my condition?
Now, in the east we would go the doctor and then ask how can I help myself to ease the pain and discomfort.
Can you see the difference? With the eastern example, we are taking responsibility for our own recovery.
Now, I am not saying that you ignore your doctor’s advice! But what I would say, you can still take full responsibility for your own recovery and help avoid other health issues in the future.
issues in the future.
Examples of taking full responsibility for your own recovery…
Having a healthy diet is one of most important things you can do to help you recover from pain and discomfort, and also helps prevents further problems in the future.
As you know there is so much advice out there on dieting and which are the right foods to eat. But my favourite is just so simple. It is from Louise L Hay,
“If it grows eat it …if it doesn’t grow don’t eat it”
How simple is that! If you just follow this simple advice from Louise L Hay to help your recovery, you will find that your energy levels will rise and you will look and feel healthier.
Exercise and fitness…
Keeping fit and healthy is another major part at taking full responsibility for your own recovery.
Of course we all have our own personal limits and challenges. But that does not mean we all cannot keep active. Even, if that is just 10 to 30 minutes.
Here are few examples…
Start off at your own pace for about 10 minutes a day. When you find it getting too easy, increase to 15 minutes… then to 20 minutes… maybe 30 minutes. Do whatever feels right for you! You will be simply amazed by the benefits.
Yoga, Pilates and T’ai Chi…
Whatever challenges you’re going through in your life right now. Yoga, Pilates or T’ai Chi will have massive benefits, not just on your body, but also your mind.
You may have to do little research which one is best for you. As a guide, try to focus on the one that looks at Meditation, breathing and posture.
Gentle stretching and strengthening exercises…
These can be as simple as turning your head to look over your shoulder or stretching your arm towards the ceiling. My advice is to have a chat with a physiotherapist to find which exercises suit your personal needs.
Your only responsibility is to stick with exercise plan. The physiotherapist can give you plan and give his advice, but you are the only one that can execute it.
I think this is a great choice! Whatever you may be going through, swimming is great for fitness and pain management. You can get amazing benefits at any fitness level or ability.
Just being in the water itself is enough to start with, as your body has to work harder to move around in the water.
Here are a few more.
Gentle aqua aerobics
Walking or running in water
If you are not sure, take a visit to your doctor or your local swimming pool and take a look at what they have to offer.
Meditation is great way to relax and let go of the negative self-talk and reduce pain and discomfort.
Mindfulness meditation is one of the most popular, and has been shown in clinical trials to reduce chronic pain by 57 per cent.
Even some hospital pain clinics are now using mindfulness meditation to help their patients cope with a wide range of conditions and diseases.
Such as, Cancer.. heart disease… and Arthritis. It is also used for back problems, migraines and fibromyalgia.
Basically, whatever you may be going through, Meditation can help you far more than you could have ever imagined.
Now that you know what mindfulness meditation can do, let’s show you how it can help YOU!
The Body Scan Meditation…
If you have never experienced a body scan meditation before you are in for a real treat!
You do not have to expert meditator to feel the benefits. And you can start seeing results quickly.
Ok, let’s start,
Find a quiet place to lie down or sit, just do whatever feels right you. Turn of your phone and make sure you will not be disturbed for 20 minutes.
When you are comfortable, take 3 deep breaths in through nose and out through mouth. Then start to focus on your breathing, feel your chest going up and down.
If it feels natural try to take the breath right down into your belly.
Get into a rhythm…In and Out…In and Out…In and Out, as you start to relax.
You may start thinking negative thoughts or start to feel pain and discomfort, just smile and move your focus back to your breathing.
Now you are relaxed and still focusing on your breathing, you are going to focus on relaxing individual parts of your body….
Starting from your scalp then moving down to your forehead
Around your eyes
Continue working your way down your body to your toes.
By now you are totally relaxed, now with each out breath try to relax even more and just enjoy the feeling of being relaxed and in the moment.
When you are ready start to come back to full awareness, do this at your own in your own time. Just wait until you are fully back to awareness before carry on with your day.
And of course, Practice…Practice…Practice
The more you practice the deeper you will relax each time you do it.
The best time to practice is in the morning just before you get up as you are already relaxed from a night sleep.
I really hope you enjoyed the body scan meditation.
Now, as I mentioned before, taking total responsibility for your life and your recovery is a choice, nothing more nothing less!
If we take a look at Morris Goodman, he had accepted where was at that moment and took total responsibility for his goal, to walk out of the hospital unaided by Christmas.
Even though the doctors said he would not be able to breathe, talk, let alone walk out the front door of the hospital.
That brings us nicely to the end of this first part in which we have looked and discussed:
Find out why acceptance is the key to your own Recovery…
Why you need to take total responsibility for your own recovery